Life Lessons

Something my guitar coach (who is an awesome guitarist and will be playing in my concert!  YAY!!) said the other day really struck me.  He said from the first day we learn music we have been taught to think in terms of “bars”.  You start at beat 1, and you play to beat 4 (assuming it’s a 4/4 piece :) ).   Then he said to me, “Instead of playing towards beat 4 or the END of the bar, mentally always think of playing towards beat 1, or the BEGINNING of the NEXT bar.  If you play and sing that way mentally, you will find your performance will have a more forward moving, narrative feel to it.”

Interesting.

Then it struck me, can’t we look at life the same way?  So often in life, we celebrate and focus on milestones that we have accomplished or finished, or “beat 4 of a bar” if you will: graduations, birthdays, anniversaries, etc.  Nothing wrong with that of course.  But what if we flip it around a little and celebrate, in anticipation ”beat 1″ of the next bar?  If we look at all our life experiences: triumpths, defeats, missions accomplished, opportunities missed, the highs and the lows and all in between, as a “pick up” or build up towards the “next bar”, then in a real sense, there is no such thing as a “good” or “bad” experience…EVERYTHING happens to move us, to lead us towards the the next bar of our life’s narrative, as we find ourselves more and more a part of THE STORY that is greater than us.  “And we know that in ALL things God works…..” (Rom 8:28).  Isn’t that a more “hope-filled” way of playing and living?

Beat 4 was great.  But here’s to Beat 1 :-)

P.S.  Make sure you come to the concert on Aug 7 to hear some good “beat 1″ music!!  Click the “Concert 2011″ tab above to order tickets today! :-)

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Quiet grace…

January 15, 2011

When it comes to grace, I have learned there are only two kinds of people in the world:

Those of us who need grace to live day to day, and those of us who receives grace everyday, but just don’t realize it.

That is entirely possible, because you see, grace often comes quietly, without any fanfare or big announcement.  It doesn’t draw attention to itself.  It doesn’t demand acknowledgment.  It is gentle and soft.  It flows like a quiet stream into a world that is parched, crusted, hardened with indifference and callousness.

Recently we came back from a trip to Italy.  One night I asked my little girl what her favorite part of the trip was.

She thought for a while…for a long while, replaying back the trip in her mind.  And then she said:

“Feeding birds.”

Feeding birds?

At first I didn’t even know what she meant.  And then I remembered.  During one of the days we were in Rome, we were walking and we had a piece of bread in our hands.  We passed by the courtyard of a church where there were some pigeons.  My little girl took the bread and fed them.  She had such a good time with the pigeons she kept wanting to buy more bread just so we can feed it to them.

That, was her favorite memory from the trip.   We were surrounded by art, history, breath taking architecture, and my little girl remembered feeding pigeons.

And then it hit me: Most of the things we did on the trip:  The museums, the art galleries, the sight-seeing, etc, were really not things that she normally enjoys or things a six year old would find to be “fun”.  But she quietly went along with us, without raising trouble or being difficult, so mommy and daddy can have a good time.

I didn’t think of it at the time, but that, was a six year old’s way of extening grace to us.  We were able to enjoy the trip as a family, in part because we received grace. 

As much as the trip was a great time of being away, it was also a wonderful learning experience for me.  From being hit with the snow storm on the first day and receiving help from a stranger, to watching my little girl feed pigeons, it taught me to be mindful and watchful for when grace flows in. 

Otherwise it is easy to miss it.  Because when grace comes, it often comes quietly.

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In Italy…Planes, Trains and Automobiles

December 19, 2010

So we are finally, officially on our first and only vacation this year.  It has been a crazy year for our family:  New job for me, new school for Taylor, building and moving office into a new centre, working with new people.  Needless to say, all of us were looking forward to finally leaving everything [...]

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letting the light guide…

October 11, 2010

I was asked, “What makes a good photographer?” (I have no clue why she would ask me) I thought about the question for a while.  With my very limited experience and skills, I knew what the answer is NOT: Good photography is not about equipment.  I have see breath-taking pictures taken with simple point and [...]

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Celebration of “Survival”

September 25, 2010

Last weekend I was invited to perform at the Annual General Meeting of the Hong Fook Mental Health Association.  What a wonderful group of people!   When I arrived, I was warmly greeted by staff and volunteers, who were all working hard to prepare for the event.   Many of the volunteers are themselves people who live with mental health [...]

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Happily…with or without “ever after”

August 7, 2010

Last night I sang at our agency’s summer BBQ.  It was one of those fun gigs where nothing’s too serious, just out having a good time while singing a couple of tunes.  I closed out the set with 古巨基’s “下次再見” (“See You Next Time”).  I liked the song from the first time I heard it, [...]

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Today…

June 29, 2010

Today I woke up a little late, and Anna and Taylor was already moving in full speed through the morning routine. “Daddy, should I wear shorts or pants today?” Ugh.  Decisions, descisions. As I slowly get up to speed, I thought to myself, “As long as there are choices and decisions to be made, I [...]

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An open letter to Taylor’s birth mother…

June 11, 2010

Hello… This has to be the most awkward letter I have ever written in my life.  Partly because we have never met each other, and we will never meet. Also partly because in all likelihood, you will never read this letter. But, today is a special day and I just felt like I should write [...]

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Today…

June 8, 2010

7:00am  Woke up.  Turned on the TV for Taylor’s morning cartoons.  Drove Anna to catch the Subway to work…still in my PJ’s (my brother in law watches Taylor while I am out in the morning) 7:25am Got back home.  Put on coffee, get breakfast ready (a slice of bread with peanut butter…lots of peanut butter…extra [...]

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On wins and losses…

April 19, 2010

If you are a sports fan, this is the time of the year that you absolutely live for: We have the NHL and NBA playoffs, which unfortunately neither my beloved Leafs nor Raptors will be participating   Baseball season is just starting, which means my fav Blue Jays have not been eliminated from contention…yet.  Just [...]

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