Comments on: Most Valuable Lesson in Parenting

By: Bill

Bill — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 10:58:56 +0000

I went to the concert with my wife last night and I think it worth every minute that I spend in the room. After the concert, we (Me and my wife) talked about what we heard, we shared about how we felt…Alfred and Anna, both of you are great, not in the sense of your ability (although both of you are very good in speech and in music) but in your personality. I think that is what counts in live.
One thing I regret in the whole evening is that I didn’t bring Kleenex or napkins or may be a towel with me!
Well, at the end, somehow I heard that you told us that there will be more this kind of concerts, I do look forward to that. I am not your “fan” but I am you “friend” and after all, we are one family!
Thank you, Alfred and Anna, I am sure both of you have touched many lives and I am sure both of you will continue to touch many more!! Keep going.

By: Bill

Bill — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 17:25:05 +0000

Hi Alfred,
I am looking forward to tonight’s concert.
I agreed that many parents wish success for their kids but I think no matter whether they are successful or not (by the way, not everybody can be successful according to today’s standard), the key whether they are happy (or satisfied) or not. Many successful people are not happy today and many “unsuccessful” are pretty happy.
There are professors at Harvard, some even have won a Nobel prize but they are not happy because they have not satisfied the desire nor reach the standard of their “unsatisfiable” parents. To my surprise and sad to say, many of these professors’ parents are already long gone but their demand for their children have kept them in this unhappy state even until now.
What do we seek for our children, to be someone that they couldn’t or just be themselves and be happy!
I want to confirm what your dad said to you, you will bounce back, don’t quit!”

By: Alfred

Alfred — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:34:49 +0000

Dear Lesley

Thank you so much for your kind words! It is my hope that the blog will be a source of encouragement to others and a reminder that we do not journey alone. Keep going!

Alfred

By: lesley

lesley — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:36:39 +0000

Alfred this is the first time I have read anything of yours. This was sent to me by a friend who knows I am having a hard time. It was precious and brought back memories of my father. What your father said to you mine would say to me. He never gave up until the very end. He had Austrialia’s 1st quadruple by-pass in 1979 and they gave him 3 years to live. He told the surgeon that “I’ll outlive you mate”. He was national ;president of the War Vets Assn of Australia until he passed away in October 2008.

Thank you for reminding me that he would never want me to give up and I look forward to reading more of your enlightening articles.

My sincere thanks

Lesley

By: Alfred

Alfred — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 22:40:01 +0000

Thanks Joeie! Hey, I never knew this is how you spell your name I am glad you and Eug enjoy reading the material on the site! We are looking forward to Saturday for sure…so happy that you guys can make it!! See you then!!

By: Joeie

Joeie — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:21:19 +0000

Hey Alfred !

Eugene recommended your website and gosh, what a good find! I’ve been catching up on various posts that you have on here, and I’m sure you hear this from everybody who reads this, but what an inspiring collection of honest and raw writings you’ve allowed readers to access!

Your writings reinforce what I’m learning more and more in my life – there is no linear way of living the “right, Christian” way. I really appreciate this post about parenting and how a father/family can teach, because I find it so applicable to my life. I think back to how my parents have and are continuing to raise me, and it’s not just the opportunities they strived so hard to give me, but it’s the time that we spend together sharing about our lives that makes me a strong believer that there is genuine Love in the world. It challenges you to question what is the purpose of my actions and what is the backbone of what makes me human?

Anyways, really looking forward to your concert on Saturday!

By: Bella

Bella — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 04:10:11 +0000

What you wrote is so true. The current trend of “helicopter” style of parenting (read: hovering) means we often try to protect our kids from any negative experiences, to shield them from disappointment or not wanting them to fail. And yet, we know they will have to deal with all these things in their lives at one point or another. I am also very guilty of being overprotective. It would be great if we can teach our kids how to face failures with grace, tenacity, and a positive attitude. But I suspect we as parents will have to learn that ourselves before we can pass it on.