From the monthly archives:

July 2009

I’m still waiting…

by Alfred Lam on July 29, 2009 · 13 comments

Today I was invited to speak to a Seniors group about the importance of getting involved with the community. I encouraged them by telling them that apart from performing various tasks with different agencies, volunteering can also be a way that they can establish new friendships in the community and sharing their valuable life experiences. Many of the seniors live lonely and isolated lives and I tried to encourage them to never think they have nothing worth contributing.

I concluded my speech by sharing this photograph, which I called “Waiting”. I shared with them that when I look at this photograph, the tree looks so lonely. It was as if he is standing alone, staring at the barrenness of winter, just standing there, waiting…but not even sure what he is waiting for. But then I told them to look closely at the tree, (you can’t see it very well here). If you look closely, you will actually see that even though the tree looks lifeless and bare, on the branches there are actually small buds…quiet signs of new life.

After the talk, the lady who was in charge of the program came up to me and shared with me her own experiences and struggles in life. She thanked me for the words and the picture and said she was encouraged to “keep waiting”. She wasn’t even supposed to be there today, but had to cover for another colleague who had been transferred to another job. I couldn’t help but think that perhaps she was “meant to be there”. Even though she was not religious…perhaps Someone was looking out for her just the same…

That night, my wife shared with me a funeral service she attended during the day. The minister spoke from Psalm 23: “The Lord is my shepherd…” The first thing the minister said was “This psalm tells us that the Lord is our shepherd. But he is not everybody’s shepherd. He is only shepherd to those who are Christians…”

sigh.

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new thought on ‘healing’…

by Alfred Lam on July 15, 2009 · 1 comment

Just came back from a wonderful lunch with my pastor (at Burger King, of all places!! More proof that it is the company rather than the food that makes the dining experience worthwhile :) . During our time together I had one of those moments where I heard myself saying something and then thinking, “Damn!! That was good! Gotta write it down quick.” So…here we are :)

My pastor asked me, “How is your healing process coming along?” I thought for a while and then I uttered the following profound statement: (Which, if I had lived 2,000 years ago, I am quite sure would’ve made it into the New Testament Canon :)

“I am slowly learning that healing happens not so much when you notice an absence of pain, but rather when you develop the perspective to see how the injury fits into the story that is your life, and then you learn to embrace that pain so that it’s part of your story moving forward.”

So…there you go. Another one for the “Alfred-ism” folder. :)

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Sichuan Reflection: It’s Always in the Little Things

July 13, 2009

Wow…I had promised to share about some of my experiences in Sichuan after given time to ‘process’ everything. I had no clue it would take me so long to ‘make sense’ of the whole experience and be able to write about it coherently. Rather than writing from the “big picture” perspective, I thought what may [...]

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Looking back on Sichuan…

July 9, 2009

Last night our music team gathered and had a debriefing session. For myself, it was literally the first time I had seen the other members since I had gotten back to Toronto. Almost as soon as we got back together, we started FD-ing again without missing a beat. (FD is a term [...]

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