From the monthly archives:

September 2008

A visit to an orphanage

by Alfred Lam on September 18, 2008 · 2 comments


Our agency was told that we need to move out of our current location by the end of the year, so lately part of my responsibilities included scouting out possible new office space. Today I was visiting a possible location in a most unusual building: the historic Loyal True Blue and Orange Home in Richmond Hill.

The Loyal True Blue and Orange Home was a large orphanage that opened in the 1920’s. Today the building has been turned into a school as well as office suites for non-profit community service agencies. As I was being given a tour of the building, the person took me to a floor where the original layout has not been disturbed. He pointed out to me the original closet spaces where the children’s coats were kept, and I even saw an old wheelchair that looked like it was from the “original days”. It was like travelling back in time.

Perhaps because of my experience in adopting a child, as we stood in that old space I found myself quietly becoming a little emotional. I looked at the old, exposed brick walls and wood floors, and “saw” children who spent cold winter nights there instead of being in the warmth of their parents’ homes. I looked out the window onto the large fields outside and wondered how many children stood in front of that very same window, gazing out on to that same field on countless Christmas mornings, feeling the loneliess of not having family.

On my way out I noticed the differet human service agencies that the building houses today. There are agencies that serve people with different illnesses and disabilities: Autism, Epilepsy, Learning Disabilities, just to name a few. Quietly, a gentle wish welled up inside: I wish my life can be useful in creating a world where children will no longer be abandoned, where people will not be stigmatized because of their illnesses, where we will finally learn, and take seriously, the dignity that is part of what it means to be human.

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The pain of abandonment…

by Alfred Lam on September 13, 2008 · 2 comments

It’s 2:30 in the morning. I went to check on my little girl one last time before heading to bed myself. As I sat down by her bed and watched her sleep, I started thinking about the early days of her life. I started to imagine what it was like being her…

It must have been so hard for her being abandoned the moment she was born. I never thought about it this way, but abandonment was her first experience of human relationship in her life. While other new born babies enjoy the warmth of their mother’s embrace, she was left, abandoned, on a cold November day on a pile of dirt by the road.

As I thought about that, somehow I felt a deep sense of connection with her. For I too know what it’s like to be abandoned, to be left behind, left for dead by those whom I thought I could count on. As I thought about that, that familiar wave of pain welled up in my heart. I found myself making a promise to her:

“For as long as I live, I will never abandon you. Never. I will not let what happened to me happen to you. You and I both know what it feels like to be abandoned. Never again will I let you go through that.”

Sleep tight, little one.

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Friends

September 10, 2008

Crazy day today.
Got to the office, running miserably late. Scheduled to interview someone for an opening on my staff in 15, no, 10, actually, in 6 minutes. Hadn’t even looked at her resume. Wait…was it a she or a he??
Shoved my lunch bag into the fridge in the staff kitchen, completely squishing someone’s pie in [...]

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Twinkle twinkle little star…

September 9, 2008

A couple of weeks ago, I put up this night light in my little girl’s bedroom. The first night I turned it on for her, I heard singing coming from her room in the middle of the night. I went over and found her lying in her bed, looking at the star and singing “Twinkle [...]

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Our Anniversary (16th)

September 5, 2008

So today is our 16th wedding anniversary. It’s been a while since we went out with just the two of us, so with my sister offering to take care of Taylor, we went with a friend’s recommendation and went to a HIGHLY rated sushi restaurant for dinner.

It was absolutely the BEST sushi we have ever [...]

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End of Summer :-(

September 1, 2008

Today is the last day of Summer…well, perhaps not officially, but we always look at the last day of the Labor Day Weekend as the last day of summer. After dinner at home, we decided to go down to the Harbour Front area for a walk and some ice-cream. As the sun was setting, I [...]

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